Learning to Ride the Waves: Embracing Change Without Falling Apart

You know that saying, “change is the only constant”?

Yeah… I used to roll my eyes at it too. Because even when we know change is part of life, that doesn’t make it any less easier to deal with.

Change can feel scary, uncomfortable, and honestly just plain inconvenient.

But what I’ve learned, and keep relearning, is that change is also where the magic happens. Growth doesn’t show up in comfort zones. It meets you in the middle of the mess.

So if you’re in the middle of a big life shift (or even a tiny one that’s throwing off your vibe), I see you.

Let’s talk about how we can start welcoming change instead of fearing it.

Why Change Feels So Hard (but Also So Necessary)

Change challenges us. It disrupts routines, forces decisions, and makes us face things we’ve been avoiding. It calls us out. And if we’re being honest ... it kind of sucks sometimes.

But on the flip side?

If life stayed the same all the time, we’d never evolve. Change is how we grow, glow, and evolve. It invites us to become a better, more aligned version of ourselves. Even when it doesn't feel good in the moment, it’s often exactly what we needed.

Whether it’s a big shift like starting over in your career, or a smaller one like setting new boundaries, every change is a chance to meet yourself in a deeper way.

And if you're chasing big dreams or building something meaningful? Being flexible, open-minded, and a little fearless in the face of change is everything.

📝 Make a List of Your Glow-Ups, Babe

Sometimes when change feels overwhelming and scary, it helps to pause and look back. Think about all that you've already been through, things that felt hard or uncomfortable in the moment. How did they turn out? What did you learn? Who did you become?

I like to write these out as little reminders:

• “Moved out on my own and learned how strong I actually am.”

• “That breakup hurt like hell, but it pushed me toward becoming me again.”

  
  

Keep a “Glow-Up List” on your phone or in your journal. Pull it out when things feel shaky. You’ve already made it through so much.

Stay Ready So You Don’t Have to Get Ready (Even When Life Gets Messy)

Change doesn’t always knock ... sometimes it kicks the door open.

But if you’re paying attention, the signs are usually there. A shift in your energy. A gut feeling you can’t shake. That tiny voice whispering, “Something’s gotta give.”

So instead of waiting to be blindsided, get still and start listening.

Jot it down. Sit with it. Ask yourself:

• “If this path doesn’t work out, I’ll try __ next.”

• "What do I need if this change is coming?"

• “What’s one small way I can soften the landing?”

  
  

Being proactive doesn’t mean over-controlling, it just means you’re walking into change with your eyes open and your heart steady.

😏 Tell Your Inner Critic to "Sit Down n Shut Up!"

You know that annoying voice in your head that pops up like,

“Girl, you really think you can handle this?”

Or

“Girl. Be serious. You can’t handle this.

Yeah… her. She’s gotta go.

She doesn’t speak truth, she speaks fear. And most of the time, she’s just trying to protect you from feeling uncomfortable. But comfort never grew anybody.

Practice catching those thoughts in real-time and gently flipping the script:

• “I’ve never done this before” ➜ “Exactly. That’s why I’m growing.”

• “What if I fail?” ➜ “What if it turns out better than I imagined?”

  
  

You don’t owe her your energy. Keep a few positive affirmations close by. Repeat them until they drown out the doubt.

"You owe you the chance to find out what’s on the other side of your doubt."

Zoom Out and Look at the Big Picture

Ask yourself:

• Will this still feel huge six months from now?

• What door might be opening that I haven’t even seen yet?

• What version of me is being shaped right now?

  
  

Not all change is meant to feel good or make sense right away. Some of it is just preparing you for something better, even if you don’t see it yet.

You don’t have to understand it yet, you just have to keep going.

Change is Gonna Happen ... What You Do With It? That’s the Plot Twist

Change will always show up, with or without your permission. That’s life.

But how you respond to it? Well, that’s the magic.

You don’t need a 5-year plan. You don’t need all the answers. You don’t have to have it all figured out.

You just need to stay open, curious, and willing to trust that even the unexpected stuff is shaping you into someone stronger, softer, and wiser.

You’re doing better than you think. You’re evolving in real time.

Give yourself some credit for that.

How do you usually deal with change?

Let’s chat in the comments ... I’d love to hear your stories, tips, or even your “I survived that” moments. 💜